In Top Sex Related Relationship Problems Part One I discussed three different types of problems couples go through in regards to sex. That was no sex, low sex drive, and sexual disagreements.
In part two we will finish off with the remaining problems and include some solutions to help with these issues. Let’s begin with our next issue.
~Sex Is Initiated By Only One Partner~
There are times in relationships where only one person does all the initiation of sex. This basically means that in order for one partner to get sex, they would have to come onto their other partner first.
They can get it but it won’t happen unless they bring it up or come on to their partner. The same thing can be said about the actual sex. Only one person does all the work.
Anyone in a relationship with this issue may get tired of this and it may become a problem.
There is a good chance that the other person is having some sort of dilemma in regards to sex, not really interested, shy, simply feels that they don’t have to initiate sex, or have some other reason for their behavior.
Then it could be due to the person initiating all the time.
In any case, it really doesn’t do well when only one person does all the coming on and it may not set well with them having to do all the work either. If you are experiencing this issue in your relationship and it is becoming a problem, it is best to sit down with your significant other and talk about.
Communication will play a big role in finding out the root cause of the behavior. Once you find out exactly why your partner doesn’t initiate sex or contribute more in the actual love making process, you both can work on fixing the issue or reason.
~Your Partner Is a Sex Addict~
If you think I am referring to a partner that wants sex all the time, I am not. I am actually talking about a real sex addict. Being in a relationship with a sex addict is one of the toughest things to do.
If your partner is a sex addict, then there is a good chance that you are miserable and on the verge of giving up.
Sex addiction is a serious problem that affects both men and women. Some of the things that a sex addict might do includes:
- Seeking out explicit sexual encounters
- Cheating on a regular basis
- Engaging in illegal sexual acts
- Leading a double life
- Seeking out sexual material all the time (porn, adult dating sites, etc)
- Being deceptive and secretive
- Compromising the relationship
- And more..
Some of these behaviors may seem like stuff people normally do in relationships every now and then but a sex addict presents these types of behaviors in a different manner and more frequently.
It’s an addiction. So how do you deal with a sex addict?
First of all, don’t blame yourself for the problem. It isn’t your fault. Next, try to get your partner to seek help. You both can go to therapy and the person who has the issue can go to sex addiction counseling.
A lot of partners, mostly women, say that therapy didn’t do any good for their sex addicted partner but it is an option and there is a chance that they may really want to change and actually change.
Other than therapy, you can also educate yourself about sex addiction and learn about things that can better this problem. There are many online resources and books available on the topic.
~Unsatisfying Sex~
You have sex and all is good but guess what? You feel unsatisfied. Sex isn’t as good as you would like. This is a common problem in relationships.
It wouldn’t be so much of a problem if you felt unsatisfied every now and then but it usually becomes an issue when it happens every time a couple has sex. So how can one go about being able to feel satisfied during sex? Here are some pointers.
* Tell your partner you aren’t satisfied. Now this may piss them off or make them feel like they are bad in the bed but if it is the truth, they have the right to know. Ask them if they can do something (You know what) that can satisfy you or make sex more passionate, hot, romantic, exciting, etc.
* Get 500 Intimate Questions For Couples. The questions inside the book can definitely result in pleasing intimacy and also let you learn things about your partner you didn’t know in regards to sex. If you and your partner go through the questions, I am very sure that it would lead to satisfying sex as these questions can reveal answers that you have been wanting and more.
I am having that issue now, back in 2008 he cheated and one of the things he did was push me away when I asked (lol) can we have sex. we made up and got back together so whenever he does that (push me away) I feel hurt and embarrassed. My relationship now is a joke the last time I had sex was the beginning of Decemeber and he thinks this is ok, we dont kiss he does not show me any affection and then he will say oh tomorrow we will have sex all day and then he just finds something else to do like play games on his phone until the wee hours of the morning and just fall out to sleep or play games on the laptop and do the same we have been together for 8 years and I am not even good enough for an engagement ring but I only good to help him get a car because that is something we both need or a house.
Me and my partner have some problems when it comes to sex. He feels like he is the only one initating sex the whole time, while I feel that I am giving it my best. Whenever he calls me and feels like talking dirty and I cannot reply because of profesionalism in the work space he gets pissed off at me and I can’t do anything sexually right after that. He keeps on complaining that he doesn’t get enough sex but I feel that its more than enough. I’m out of words and very scared that he will end up seeking it in another place. Please can you give me some advice?
actually i have a problem with my girlfriend i think she’s a sex addict because maybe after two rounds she will demand another round,sometimes am not in the mood.then she will start telling me she’s going to find someone who will satisfy her.what can i do to save my relationship
You have answered part of your own question. You need to satisfy her in order to save your relationship. She is probably demanding more rounds because she is left unsatisfied and wants to feel satisfied. I don’t think it was right for her to say that she would find someone else to satisfy her because that is like a low blow to you. However, she does have the right to leave if she is not satisfied. So, what I would recommend you do is have a talk with her and find out what you could do to possibly satisfy her in the bedroom. I will be publishing a post shortly on how to spice up the sex life and maybe you could use some of the tips to try to give her the satisfaction she is looking for. If she feels satisfied the first round, she may not need those other rounds. In the meantime, you just have to talk to her and let her know how you feel and what you are capable of doing.